Character is Cuteness

The character of a person makes or breaks their cuteness.

Some of the most gorgeous or good looking people I know are the way they are because the beauty of their heart spills over to their face. They have abandoned pop cultures idea of beauty and have run into the heart of Jesus Christ.

You become who you hang out with, so as they hang out with Jesus, they become like Him. And as they become like Him, the fruit of the Spirit is produced. This fruit comes in the form of character traits: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. And as they live and breathe these traits, they become beautiful.

I never ceased to be amazed as I watch this happen. The girl who returns all evil with love becomes admirable and stunning. The joy in her eyes is captivating and the peace in her heart is desiring. The kindness in her touch is drawing and the goodness in her words is attractive. The guy who is faithful is the guy who is respected. His gentleness and care makes him adorable. And his self control and self discipline makes him a man of appealing strength.

And out of the quality of their heart, their weirdness becomes cuteness. The way he sheepishly scratches his chin when he’s nervous or she plays with her fingers when she doesn’t know what to say. The little odd things they do that maybe once annoyed you becomes precious to you because you love who they are and the uniqueness is just an expression of their personality. You find yourself laughing over the differences and delighting in the similarities; you treasure the little moments and dance over the big ones.

And suddenly you realize you’ve fallen in love with the quality of someone’s heart in such a way that has made them the most beautiful person in your life. And as this happens, you find something that will grow even better with time, because Christ will continue to beautify that heart with every passing day.

Be so lost in God, that someone has to seek Him in order to find you .. and the both of you will be beautiful because of it.

 

Don’t Cheat The Guy

I don’t understand when we decided its right to pretend to be someone else, then to be who we truly are. I’ve watched in sadness as one girl after another abandons who she was made to be in pursuit of who she believes everyone else wants her to be … especially to be everything she thinks that one guy wants her to be.

At the core, she loves classical music. But that’s weird and outdated these days, so she pretends she likes Taylor Swift because that’s known and accepted. She craves a double cheeseburger but always eats tofu because that’s what her skinny friends eat. Some days, all she wants to do is lie under the sky and look at the clouds; but she pushes herself to book every weekend night because that is what is expected. She likes vintage, but wears trendy. She prefers reading but watches movies. She wants quality of friends, but goes for quantity. She wants to be a mother to a houseful of kids, but pursues law school.

Does any of this connect with you? Your situation and scenario may very well be polar opposite or vastly different. But the underline message is still there. You feel a constant pull to be that which is respected, accepted, and recognized as cool.

Here’s a piece of truth, sista.

What I am going to say applies to ALL relationships but today, specifically, in dating relationships.

Girl.

You have to be honest and be you because if you’re not, the guy will fall in love with someone else (the person you pretend to be) and be stuck with you.

Don’t cheat the guy.

Just sayin’.

And, lemme tell you, a true man is going to be captivated by you. Because he doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life with a fake Barbie; he wants to do life with a real person.

 

 

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